Low self esteem might seem trivial but its impact on a person?s life can be tremendous. If you have a negative view of yourself, you are bound to experience a life filled with pain and frustrations?you will have difficulty building healthy and lasting relationships; you are unlikely to excel in your job and you are at high risk of developing mental and behavioral problems. I myself have experienced these disheartening circumstances; as a matter of fact, they were what prompted me to seek out ways to improve my self esteem.
I don?t think there is anybody in this world who would want to have low self esteem. Sadly though, experiences and circumstances that lead to the formation of these deep-rooted emotional issues are generally beyond our control. Good thing, our self esteem is not permanent?we can always work on improving it for the better. But, you should know that improving your self esteem would not happen overnight?it would take ceaseless effort in a span of months or even years. Changing your negative view about yourself would require you to do many things, but if you ask me, it is best to work on these 3 fundamental tasks first:
Be in the company of the right people. A few years ago, back when I was still struggling to resolve my self esteem issues, I made one very important realization, and that is how significantly the people I surrounded myself with influenced the perception and feelings I had towards myself. With this realization, I had to wisely prune relationships?distance myself from some people and strengthen bonds with others. I believe that what I did played a great role in helping me reach this point of my life. So I would propose you do the same too?build better bonds and spend more time with those people who make you feel loved, valued and respected. Try to keep away from those people who are rather critical of you. Surround yourself only with those people who can contribute to your aim for self-improvement.
Reduce those self-limiting thoughts.
The negative self-limiting thoughts that fill your mind all day are among the primary fuels of your low self esteem. If you would like to do away with low self esteem permanently, silencing this inner critic should be your primary goal. What you must do first is develop a greater sense of consciousness over them?make the effort to purposely listen to the conversations that happen inside your mind. Then you can start working on making a list of all the negative beliefs that you have about yourself. Having identified your self-limiting beliefs, you can now work on eliminating them. Take a look at each thought and try to challenge and refute them with a corresponding positive statement. To make your claim even stronger, you can provide proof to support it. Let?s take the negative thought ?I can?t do anything well? as an example. You can refute this negative thought through a positive statement like, ?Sure, I can do several things well,? and make a list of your past achievements.
Work on developing assertiveness. If you are one of those individuals who have developed the habit of putting aside their own emotions, thoughts or needs for the sake of other people?s pleasure or satisfaction, then this tip is exactly what you need. Living with a passive attitude and letting others easily exert their rights above you makes you doubt your worth even more. So stop being quiet and passive all the time and start asking for what you want and speaking up for yourself. Remember that what you think and feel is no less important than anyone else?s.
Source: http://articlebro.com/2012/self-improvement/3-fundamental-tips-on-how-to-improve-self-esteem/
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